- The crew with whom I'm flying currently has been here all of two weeks.
- The majority of this crew is married.
- I have been here for the majority of this year.
- I am single.
By nature of the customers (us) and its relatively exclusivity, it is very popular among the women of every service in GenPop. Consequently, it is with little surprise that one notes the Bitter End -- when opened (though irregularly) -- is chock-full of what some have derisively nicknamed as "Frog Hogs." Having been to the Bitter End is, apparently, a mark of distinction among women.
Seven minutes before the expiration of my otherwise non-descript birthday recently, I was cajoled into visiting the Bitter End for a beer or six. I had been reluctant to do so, as I needed to get up early the next morning and go for a run before our mission. Nonetheless, I succumbed to the sweet siren call of beer.
I spent the evening bullshitting and playing darts and having as best a time as I could, given the circumstances.
The guys on my crew and the other operators-in-residence, however, spent the evening joking, massaging, insulting, flirting... all in patent effort to get in some girl's pants. Any girl's pants.
Please refer to Stipulation 2. As well would it serve my argument for you to know that these same married men in drunken efforts to find a rackmate for the night also continue wearing their wedding rings... they don't even bother to hide it.
Here are my complaints, in easily-digestible bullet form:
- I don't excuse (or tolerate, or stomach) infidelity in any form, but at only two weeks separation?
- And what about the women who knowingly ignore their suitors' marital status?
- Women have reason to distrust men.
- Women are as complicit in this condition as are the men.
- Men will hit on even the fugliest and wholly personality-devoid women when deployed.
- These same women enjoy fame while deployed they can only imagine at home.
- Of the reasons for electing to divorce my wife over three years ago, prime among them was her constant fear of my infidelity (discussed here.)
- When my subsequent love, S., broke my heart, her infidelity while I was deployed was paramount among reasons (discussed here.)
I can't win.
Does this shit happen in the Real World, too?... I wouldn't know, as I've been wearing the uniform since I was a wee-impressionable young man. I'd like to think it does, and that it's not the military culture that engenders this loathsome behavior, but... really? Xerox and The Washington Post and Maggie Moo's? Doesn't seem to fit...